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Here is how and why, speaking from my personal experience and point of view.
You grew up in a country where 10 to 18 hours of load shedding is normal. There is no concept of load-shedding abroad.
You grew up in a country where a 50k to 100k salary is considered the best. Abroad, even a laborer will earn more than 3 lacs Pakistani rupees.
In your home country, you constantly yearn for basic life necessities like education, healthcare, roads, and the safety of life and property, whereas abroad, these are given to all people regardless of class and race. There is order and justice everywhere.
But where is the trap, you might think?
This is the trap: you would not be able to move back to your home country, where load shedding is normal, 50k is normal, and basic life necessities are not provided. No order or justice.
But you cannot live abroad either. You have to pay taxes that are more than you can imagine. You have to send money back home because back home, they think someone is making money, and they have the right to spend as much as they like.
You have to pay rent, taxes, university fees (if you are a student), work permit fees (if you are a worker), and when you include your basic needs, you are left with nothing. You can hardly survive on your savings.
Life abroad is a machine life. Work and sleep: if and only if you have quality and proper sleep. Nothing else. The pictures you see are just curtains hiding thousands of things. Behind those gleaming smiles and picturesque landscapes lies the harsh reality of endless toil and solitude.
You will hardly smile, hardly gather with your friends (if you have any), hardly have time to call your loved ones back home, hardly know the whereabouts of your university or college friends, and hardly do anything other than work. The feeling of isolation and the monotony of daily routines can become overwhelming.
So, in the end, you earn money to make other people happy (considering they are happy, which is very hard). It is a pit; once you drown in it, coming out of it will be next to impossible. The dreams of prosperity and happiness abroad are often just illusions, leading to a cycle of perpetual dissatisfaction.
You want to go home, but cannot because normal now looks abnormal to you. You want to stay, but cannot because it is very hard to manage everything, so you wait for things to end by themselves. The allure of a better life abroad fades as you realize that the grass is not always greener on the other side.
